OH MY GOD BEST DERBY NAME
(Source: narwhalhipster, via fuckyeahhardfemme)
2 years ago, I weighed 162 pounds. Today I weigh 126.
I didn’t lose the weight by hating myself down to a size 4. Not through dieting, not through crazy amounts of exercise, not through calorie counting, or purging.
I lost 35 pounds by learning to love and take care of my body. I realized that part of loving myself is giving my body what it needs. I changed my diet to include mostly plants, I cut out soda and fought hard against my addiction to sugary/fatty foods. I began to see food as fuel and to use it as such. I also made sure my body was in motion for at least 1 hour everyday, and these days I am even working on becoming physically stronger. I knew that my old eating/exercise habits would not suit me as I began to age. I knew that I wasn’t treating my body well.
When I truly began to love it, it took a new shape. I loved my old shape. I love my new shape. I love it all because I love me! x)
This doesn’t sit well with me and I wish I could pinpoint all of the reasons why it doesn’t. I think a major one is how shaming it is for people who are fat and genuinely enjoy both their bodies AND fatty foods. It seems to equate eating certain things with not actually loving yourself. This is problematic.
This is SUPER problematic. Especially RIGHT on the heels of her fat shaming video last week.
So she changed her habits and her body changed. GREAT. Some people don’t want to change their habits. Some people don’t have the means (money time resources etc.) to change their habits. Some people do change their habits, but their body still looks the same. And ALL of that is okay.
With a viewership like Laci has, she really needs to consider that this post is probably going to do a lot more harm than good. The gung-ho ‘I did it and so can you!’ approach is really off-putting. She even used the word ‘addiction’ when it came to sugary and fatty foods—and you know what, addictions aren’t just that easy to break, especially when it comes to food, which is necessary to live, and especially when the bad foods are the cheapest and most accessible to get.
Very disappointed. Love her sex positive stuff, but she’s got a lot to learn about body positivity.
Thank you Amber for articulating everything I felt and then some!
Agreed. Laci is an awesome advocate for a variety of topics, and as a professional sex educator I really appreciate her work to spread sex positivity, but she still has a lot of learning to do. This post definitely left a bad taste in my mouth.
(via thelittleidiotthatcould)
Last night was an impromptu ~hot queer~ king’s cup night followed by everyone falling asleep to Interview With The Vampire.
Today, I have an OkCupid date. I don’t know. I also need to sort out my SEVEN GARBAGE BAGS of clothes. Getting rid of things.
Tomorrow is river day with Grey, and I’ll be sleeping at his house.
Eleven days until the magical boy gets into town.
I’m busy.
Trying to get something real by telling yourself stories is a trap.
Dream foursome situation.